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HerMelness Speaks
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HerMelness Speaks

Parenting expert GB
A little about me? Well I’m little. 5ft to be exact - or 4’ 11” to be truthful. As the widowed parent to four members of the ‘The Gibberish Generation’ (teenagers), I am currently getting down and very dirty in the parenting trenches and am the gatekeeper to two boys and two girls aged 25, 22, 18 and 15. I am a blogger ('HerMelness Speaks...Out' and 'Blog A Word'), a former corporate executive, the Managing Director of The Gift of Words Ltd and a professional mentor to young people.

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2020

Info

Parent blogger/student mentor
Qualifications:
  • Dip. Business, Office Administration, Econonics and Law

Stats

  • Questions 0
  • Answers 34
  • Followers 18
  • Follows 22
  • Votes given 16
  • Votes received 40
Questions Answers Comments Votes
05Feb
Is there still a place in today’s society for corporal punishment?

I was subjected to corporal punishment at home and at school. It does not work. I do something wrong...you hit me. The slate is wiped clean in a ...

09Jan
What should parents know about teen trend Snapchat?

Yes, Snapchat is (ostensibly) temporary. However, in all things technical, there may be a residual database somewhere. That aside, non-technical ...

04Jan
Should kids clay set not to have black and white colors?

If this is for real (and I'm still not sure after a third reading), the premise is misguided. A colour is not endowed with negative or positive ...

07Nov
Should deprived kids really start school at two?

Having come from one of those 'poorest' families, my seven brothers and sisters and I were lucky in that we had parents who believed it was education ...

07Nov

This quote is from a very experienced school and pupil development consultant who has worked with schools, primary and secondary, in Birmingham for ...

04Nov
What information should you never share on Facebook?

All of the above are, of course, correct. However, it is getting more and more difficult to be anonymous on social media. One of the reasons is the ...

03Oct
How can I help graduate children to find work?

Having been through it before we, of course, bring our experience to the table. While the world is different today, the psychology of looking for ...

21Aug
Should schools replace textbooks with tablets?

I believe that soon this debate will be a moot point. Ironically we gave up stone tablets for paper -ie: we voted in progress. Yes, there are issues ...

16Jul

I definitely agree about there being a deep dissatisfaction within themselves - although they, of course, will deny it! There is also the pack ...

15Jul

Trolling has some interesting geeky origins [http://www.dedoimedo.com/life/guide-trolling.html](http://www.dedoimedo.com/life/guide-trolling.html) ...

15Jul
Why do people troll?

I agree with Linda that the answer can be complicated. However, the common thread I have found is a deep dissatisfaction with themselves. There also ...

06Jul
How can I help develop my child's entrepreneurship?

We have always taught our children entrepreneurship by not turning it into a black art which requires some business school thinking alchemy. So, for ...

11Jun
Would a Kindle encourage my eight-year-old reluctant reader?

A Kindle would make material more accessible and, certainly, is invaluable for getting information on an unknown word or phrase instantly. However, ...

10May
Will there come a time when its acceptable for parents to Microchip their kids?

Tagging our children in any way is synonymous with parenting in fear. Children cannot grow when parented in fear...and they too will grow up to lead ...

01May
Should schools teach 'porn literacy'?

As in anything, children need to be educated to their then levels of understanding on any subject making up this life. When children are given that ...

01May

The media coverage of this story has been incredibly sensationalist, with (not surprisingly) strongly polarised reactions to those headlines. I ...

10Apr
My 10-year-old has experimented sexually with his friend. Will he be gay?

I would say not necessarily, but an over-emphasis on that part of the experimentation may push him into deciding during this uncertain period for ...

05Apr
At what age should I talk to my children about online safety?

At what age should we start to talk to our children about safety? The moment they are born so they become accustomed and street-wise to would be ...

Q: Is there still a place in today’s society for corporal punishment?

A: I was subjected to corporal punishment at home and at school. It does not work. I do something wrong...you hit me. The slate is wiped clean in a ...

3 years ago

Q: What should parents know about teen trend Snapchat?

A: Yes, Snapchat is (ostensibly) temporary. However, in all things technical, there may be a residual database somewhere. That aside, non-technical ...

3 years ago

Q: Should kids clay set not to have black and white colors?

A: If this is for real (and I'm still not sure after a third reading), the premise is misguided. A colour is not endowed with negative or positive ...

3 years ago

Q: Should deprived kids really start school at two?

A: Having come from one of those 'poorest' families, my seven brothers and sisters and I were lucky in that we had parents who believed it was education ...

3 years ago

Q: What information should you never share on Facebook?

A: All of the above are, of course, correct. However, it is getting more and more difficult to be anonymous on social media. One of the reasons is the ...

3 years ago

Q: How can I help graduate children to find work?

A: Having been through it before we, of course, bring our experience to the table. While the world is different today, the psychology of looking for ...

3 years ago

Q: Should schools replace textbooks with tablets?

A: I believe that soon this debate will be a moot point. Ironically we gave up stone tablets for paper -ie: we voted in progress. Yes, there are issues ...

3 years ago

Q: Why do people troll?

A: I agree with Linda that the answer can be complicated. However, the common thread I have found is a deep dissatisfaction with themselves. There also ...

3 years ago

Q: How can I help develop my child's entrepreneurship?

A: We have always taught our children entrepreneurship by not turning it into a black art which requires some business school thinking alchemy. So, for ...

3 years ago

Q: Would a Kindle encourage my eight-year-old reluctant reader?

A: A Kindle would make material more accessible and, certainly, is invaluable for getting information on an unknown word or phrase instantly. However, ...

3 years ago

Q: Will there come a time when its acceptable for parents to Microchip their kids?

A: Tagging our children in any way is synonymous with parenting in fear. Children cannot grow when parented in fear...and they too will grow up to lead ...

3 years ago

Q: Should schools teach 'porn literacy'?

A: As in anything, children need to be educated to their then levels of understanding on any subject making up this life. When children are given that ...

3 years ago

Q: My 10-year-old has experimented sexually with his friend. Will he be gay?

A: I would say not necessarily, but an over-emphasis on that part of the experimentation may push him into deciding during this uncertain period for ...

4 years ago

Q: At what age should I talk to my children about online safety?

A: At what age should we start to talk to our children about safety? The moment they are born so they become accustomed and street-wise to would be ...

4 years ago

Q: How does where you’re born affect parenting style?

A: Certainly, coming from a West Indian culture, I was definitely parented differently than our Western neighbours. While I envied my counterparts as a ...

4 years ago

Q: Do horror movies leave a lasting impression?

A: I remember horror movies that were really graphic did not leave a lasting impression and, perhaps, even made me laugh on occasion. However, the ...

4 years ago

Q: How do you think children should address their Teachers?

A: School should also be a reality check on what children can expect in the outside world. In my children's world no adult is addressed by their first ...

4 years ago

Q: Does anyone else HATE the proliferation of Comic Sans in schools?

A: I can bear it in the smallest of does where it seems appropriate in its use. Otherwise, I find it hard to concentrate and go against popular belief ...

4 years ago

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