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C. Lee Reed
C. Lee Reed Tampa, US

We monitor our teen's social media outings and fully expect her to enjoy herself, yet be wary of what is made public. While I wouldn't consider our monitoring "meddling", we absolutely reserve the right to intervene if we deem appropriate.Other than that, we realize that teens enjoy this outlet and rightfully so.

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Experience 4 years ago
Joanne Mallon writer
Joanne Mallon Author, parent, blogger Brighton, The City of Brighton and Hove, UK

My daughter recently turned 13 and we marked her birthday afternoon with a modern day rite of passage – opening her first Facebook account. I thought I had schooled her well in online etiquette and privacy issues. But then things got a lot more complicated.

She knows not to accept friend requests from people she doesn’t know, but what about from school acquaintances she’s only on nodding terms with? What about people she knows but would never normally talk to?

And what happens when the person she thought was a good friend doesn’t accept her Facebook friend request?

And for a child – what about his or her parent’s friends or older relatives, should you get connected to them online too? If you do, does it start to then get complicated for those people? As one of my friends told my daughter: I warn you, I swear a lot on Facebook

It’s all so much more complicated than it first seemed to be. I’m taking it step by step and aiming to hold back. I know teenage girls’ lives are often riven with angst but I don’t want to have it in my Timeline.

My feeling is that it’s fine to accept that person you don’t know well from school unless you have a definite reason not to. They might turn out to be a good friend. If they don’t, here’s how to use the ‘hide’ function. As for your other pal; well, maybe she just hasn’t seen your friend request (and no I will not mention it to her mother, though part of me would like to). And as for the friends of mine who complain that seeing my child on Facebook makes them feel old – well, dare I say it, that’s because we are.

Where do you draw the line with your children’s Facebook friendships?

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Experience 4 years ago
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Brian Sharland expert
Brian Sharland ICT teacher Oxfordshire, UK
Education expert

Although I am a parent of two small children I am also responsible for e-safety at the school I work at. I regularly say to the pupils that if they are seeking to keep something private because they might feel 'guilt' about it then it is perhaps better to share that with their parents. However parents also need to understand and trust that their children do deserve some privacy which should grow in scope as they get older and approach adulthood. However ultimately all home situations are different and there is no hard and fast rule as to how to do things.

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Experience 4 years ago
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Marty Schultz expert
Marty Schultz CEO, McGruff SafeGuard Washington, US

You should make it clear to your kids that you will be monitoring all of their activity until they are mature teens, and remind them that privacy no longer exists on the Internet. If they post something, it will be seen by their friends and enemies and lasts forever. Explain that you will see it too, and you can help guide their decisions over what to post and what not to. (We make a free app - McGruff SafeGuard Child Safe Browser for the iphone/ipad/iphone).

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Experience 4 years ago
Neener gabel
Neener gabel single mom of teen girl Brockton, MA 02301, USA

Teens don't go on FB. they're on twitter, tumblr and instagram (probably more than that). They occasionally post on FB but most are beyond FB. My daughter uses it for keeping in touch with her European and Southern families.

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Experience 4 years ago

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