Should I buy a Christmas present for my newborn baby?
This is my baby's first Christmas. She will be 8 weeks old and I want my baby to have a good Christmas even though she can´t remember it. Babies have no idea it’s Christmas. They haven’t been brought up to speed about gift giving, so is it a waste of money to buy things they don’t even care about? Would I be classed as a bad mother if I don't buy my baby presents for Christmas?
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Congratulations!! I also think it's very important to include your child, no matter how small. I remember when my daughter celebrated her first Christmas, she was 2 months old. I felt the same way, so I got her some educational, colourful toys and stuffed animals. They have the cutest little things. Don't forget a winter coat and some blankets because winter is right around the corner. Even though your little baby might not understand at that moment, when she look back at the pics you take, they will enjoy it better. My daughter surely did and she's six now.
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Congratulations on your newborn! I think that during the first year giving presents to kids in unnecessary and kind of anticlimactic, but as a parent you would probably feel better giving a gift. We typically bought things we wanted to buy for our son anyway.
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She won't remember it, but you will, so really the answer is that it depends on you.
We bought a few bits for our babies on their first Christmasses but didn't go overboard and they tended to be things we were going to buy anyway. For example, my youngest was eight months on his first Christmas and we bought him a sit-in baby walker thing that we were due to buy him anyway. We also bought him a little bunny soft toy which he has slept with every night since and is his special teddy. So I'm glad we did that!
No-one will think you're a bad mother, it's totally personal preference and I'm sure your baby will be inundated with presents from friends and family anyway! Christmas isn't just about presents, after all, and there will be many more Christmasses when your daughter will be very aware and expectant of gifts!
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Firstly, many congratulations and I hope you're settling in to parenthood well. My son was around 8 weeks old on his first Christmas too so I completely understand what you're asking. Ultimately, of course, it's entirely your decision and like all these things I would say go with your instincts and what feels right. Something I did do for my son was to buy a little gift from the UNICEF Inspired Gifts collection http://shop.unicef.org.uk/Shop/Inspired-Gifts.html both to celebrate his life as well as Christmas and to support other families who didn't have what we did (I bought vaccines and baby blankets). I kept the gift card and envelope in a little box so I can show him when he's older. He did have a little 'my first Christmas' sleepsuit and a cuddly toy too, and as far as I can remember (it was 7 years ago now!) he slept through most of the day! Whatever you do, I hope you have a wonderful day.
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My daughter was 8 months old for her first Christmas, and she had no clue what was going on. But since she was the first grandchild on both sides of her family, everyone else was eager to hop on board. You should have seen the haul - and my daughter still had the stuffed bunny she received 10 years later.
Nobody is a bad parent for not giving a child something simply because it's a holiday, especially if it's something the child doesn't really want or need. That being said, sometimes we give because it's good for us to do so - such as a way to welcome a new little person into the world. You don't mention whether your newborn has older sibs, but it might be good for the older kids to offer a gift to their new little sister, not because the sister will benefit, but because the older siblings will.
The bottom line - don't stress on it. I discovered that when I was worrying about being a good parent, 90 percent of the time it was over something that didn't really matter that much. What matters is love, care and appropriate limits.