Do you go on parents' nights out with your school?
Our school seem to have a lot of evenings out, I get emails pretty regularly asking me on mums' nights out or golf days. I am not a very sociable person, don't really like going out and especially don't like making small talk with a bunch of people with whom the only thing I have in common with them is that our children are in the same class. But am I doing my children a disservice and should I choke it down and drag myself out?
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The opportunity to attend an event with other parents are most valuable!
Our children has thus far attended different schools in different countries:
- One of the schools had a very active PTA and a Class rep system organising a host of get togethers ranging from coffee mornings, evenings out to cooking classes! This school environment reflected a deep sense of community and it was also a place and space where we felt most accepted and looked after as a family. It felt like value for money, an education second to none. We were seen as stakeholders in our children's education and there were healthy relationships among children, teachers and parents.
- Another school they attended had an active PTA, but no classreps. The school was often criticized by parents who felt that the school was not communicating to them properly regarding many different issues. This in fact was not true - the school had an excellent communication system in place, but the lack of events instigated by class reps and/or parents led to a disconnect. Only a loose community existed among parents and new parents (mostly expats) received no support from the parent or school community.
- Yet another school had no PTA or class reps in place and most of the kids were also dropped of and picked up by drivers (a school mostly attended by children of ambassadors and diplomats). Parents were rarely seen. This school proved to be a disastrous experience for us and the lack of any community was an indication of a very unhealthy school environment all around. With the consent of the children, we removed them after only a month since the communication and management systems were in shambles apart from many unsavoury practices that were hardly challenged as parents barely spoke to one another.
Now, I do have a problem with moms dancing on the tables and posting the pics on Facebook - those type of scenarios are to be avoided ;-)